Building Self-Esteem + Self-Confidence

Self esteem is the opinion we have of ourselves.  These opinions are shaped by our early experiences in our family, at school, from friendship, and in wider society.  The way we view and feel about ourselves plays a significant role in how how capable we feel, how we interact with others, and basically, how we navigate through life.

Lack of self-acceptance has been described as an "epidemic".  We judge ourselves so harshly, often without even knowing why we do it.  We are constantly  evaluating aspects of ourselves and making comparisons with others. This is actually a protective function in the brain, a natural part of our human make-up.  However, while in some cases it can be helpful, it is more often than not demoralizing and destructive.

Healthy self-esteem usually results when we see our caregivers modeling  healthy self-esteem and we were given appropriate encouragement and unconditional love and acceptance.  It this way, we develop the autonomy to take risks and celebrate successes, while developing resilience around failure, set-backs, and constructive criticism.

Some characteristics shared by those with healthy self-esteem include that they: 
  • are confident in their ability to adapt to the challenges they face
  • are proud of their accomplishments and can take appropriate risks to achieve what they want in life
  • have healthy boundaries and can express their needs and wants.  
  • embrace constructive feedback as being useful in helping them to reach their full potential


How do you see yourself  - what does your self-concept look like?   What comes to mind if I were to ask you to fill in the blank,​"I've always hated ______________ about myself",  or "If only ___________ was different, I'd be happy with who I am"
Low self-esteem negatively affects us in so many ways, including:

Increased likelihood of depression, anxiety, and stress

Shame: we experience shame when we think poorly of ourselves and our abilities

Loneliness: those with low self-esteem can struggle in maintaining healthy relationships.  Because they are unable to accept themselves, they cannot fully accept others either
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Pessimism: the mindset of those who struggle with low self-esteem tend to focus on what they see as being negative 

Unhealthy/unhelpful habits: in many cases, those with low self-esteem will resort to unhelpful habits to cope with the uncomfortable feelings that come hand-in-hand with low self-worth.  This may include habits like using alcohol or drugs, gambling, smoking, sleeping, over-eating, etc.

Lack of motivation: Academic and job performance can suffer and be limited
Coaching can Help You:
  • understand the impact of childhood conditioning and societal programming on the development of self-esteem
  • gain insight into your often less-than-helpful critical self-talk and ways to work through it
  • recognize that self-confidence can be developed and nurtured
  • explore your core values and strengths
  • develop the ability to identify thinking traps that are keeping you stuck
  • improve confidence in decision-making and achieving goals
  • build self-compassion and mindfulness into your everyday life
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Coaching provides support and guidance around overcoming low self-esteem and developing confidence and resilience.  ​​​Please feel free to reach out if you have any questions at all!  ​

​*Physically located in Halifax, Nova Scotia, coaching is offered by phone and video so that location is not a barrier.  You can participate in an interactive process from the comfort of home!

Bobbi Beuree, Coach + Facilitator

Navigating some pretty big challenges in my life took me to a deep place where I could learn more about myself, life, and the people and world around me.  I'm so grateful that, through coaching, I get to share that with others, while helping them to make sense of their own experience.

Like so many others, I know what it's like to feel anxious, and hopeless, lost and defeated.  And I also know what it's like to feel energized, excited, and inspired! I've come to know on a deep level that the latter is our true nature, but that it is often covered up by our beliefs, thinking patterns, emotional reactions, habits, and more.

I've spent the last 15 years working with people, helping them to grow in self-awareness, uncover their full potential, and  create lives that are full, engaged, and meaningful.    It is so rewarding as I watch clients reach powerful new insights around what they are capable of!
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